ご愁傷様です

[dorchadas]

My Japanese tutor's grandmother died unexpectedly yesterday so class was cancelled. She was in her 90s, but we had just been talking a couple weeks ago about how she had all her living grandparents and I didn't have any of mine even though we're the same age (we were the same year at Penn).

I asked her if she wanted me to put her grandmother's name during Kaddish and she said yes. The way prayer has been weaponized by proselytizing American Christians makes me leery of asking that for people, but I've known her for years. I figured she wouldn't misunderstand what I meant.

(goshūshō-sama desu, "I'm sorry for your loss")