"This is your night, and it's ending one minute at a time"

I've paid my first property tax installment, so now I truly am a member of the landed gentry. 🎩

( My weekend )

Soulmates are garbage

Something that didn't really fit into the previous post.

When we were out at the bar, britshlez asked me if I thought it was more important to have a partner with whom you agreed with on the major life decisions, like children or where you want to live or work ethic, or whether it's better to have a partner who really gets your hobbies and the references you can make based on your life (this is what I summarized in my meme comment). I didn't even have to think--I immediately said the former was better, because those are the things that will break a relationship over the long term, whereas it's important that a couple's interests be a Venn diagram. Each person needs hobbies that they can do by themselves, as a way of getting their own time.

Though, having said that, I did clarify that honestly it's not that important to me that someone immediately get all my references. I have to explain most of my Jewish jokes to my non-Jewish friends, and I have to explain almost all of my Japan references to everyone I know. britshlez asked me if there was anyone who ever just got my sense of humor immediately, and I honestly answered that yes, schoolpsychnerd had. But that's because we basically grew from callow youths to adults together, so we had the same life experience for a long time. Of course, I can't go into a new relationship and expect them to understand all the references and in-jokes and memes that schoolpsychnerd and I built up.

That led into a conversation where we were both complaining about how Western popular ideas of love are damaging, honestly--people are waiting for soulmates, and if they don't find someone who immediately fits their view of the perfect mate, well, there's thousands of people an internet away so they jump ship. But soulmates don't just exist out there, a soulmate is made. I told britshlez that I wasn't looking for someone to understand my obscure jokes immediately, but someone who would be open to learning what I find important, and sharing what they find important without mocking me for not knowing it. That's far more valuable than that they come into a relationship already knowing everything about tabletop RPGs and Japanese history and DOS games.

It would be nice to find someone who got my DOS game references, though.

(I appreciate the irony of the Listening song, but Linked is amazing. And the nightcore version is great too)